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Clay Waters
Senior Pastor

“Never make a decision when your decision maker is broken.” I’ll always remember when my wife spoke these words to me. My wife could tell I was emotionally charged about a particular situation. She let the room get real quiet and then she spoke the show stopping words, “Clay, never make a decision when your decision maker is broken.” Had I made a quick decision, it would have been the wrong decision. I didn’t have a good frame of reference at the moment to be able to make a rational, solid decision.


Making a decision at the wrong time can breed disaster. There are times in our lives when we are more susceptible to making poor choices.  Being aware that we have the propensity to make wrong decisions when gripped by intense emotion is very important. When we encounter those times, it’s important to deem our decision maker broken.  Temporarily postponing the decision may save you a lifetime of consequences. When you are emotionally charged, one of the most important decisions you can make is not to make big decisions. Make your big decisions on a good day, not on a bad day. Never make a permanent decision based on temporary emotions.


There’s a little verse in 2 Timothy 4:5 I’ve come to appreciate. It’s a verse which is often overlooked. Paul is talking to a young leader named Timothy. He says, “But you, Timothy, keep your head in all situations.” I love how direct and to the point He is. “Timothy, whatever comes your way—keep your head in all situations.” Don’t let your mind be hijacked by your emotions.


Interestingly, all of us have a part in the brain called the amygdala.  It's the primary place in the brain that experiences strong emotions, like rage or fear.  In certain animals, when researchers remove the amygdala, the animals are incapable of experiencing things like rage or fear.  Normally, when input comes into your brain, it goes to a place called the neocortex, and it gets processed there. But occasionally, about 5% of the time, it goes directly to the amygdala, and the thinking part of your brain gets short-circuited. This is especially true when we have intense moments of anger. This explains why it is more difficult to exercise self-control when we are emotionally hyped. Our emotions are trying to hijack the amygdala.  It's remarkable how God has wired us together.


Dr. Benjamin Libet is a neurosurgeon who made some remarkable discoveries while performing brain surgeries. Because the brain has no nerve endings and feels no pain, he could perform certain brain surgeries without using general anesthesia. Dr. Libet would perform these surgeries and communicate with his patients during the course of the surgery. He would often use a special clock that tracked time in the thousandths of a second. He would ask his patients to move their finger as he monitored the electrical activity in the brain that regulated that movement.

Through his experiment, Libet was able to identify the moment of intent to move the finger, the moment of awareness of that intent, and the moment the patient actually moved their finger. Libet discovered that when your brain has the impulse that says “Move your hand,” the impulse travels down to that part of your body, but it takes about a quarter of a second for it to get there. In between the time when the brain activity happens and the hand moves is what Daniel Goleman calls "the life-giving quarter-second."  In other words, once the patient was aware of the intent to move, there was another quarter second before the movement began.

Interestingly, that quarter of a second, although it doesn’t seem very long, is plenty of time for the mind to reject or accept the impulse.  We have a quarter of a second to “veto” our automatic responses to our emotions.  This is the defining moment when we can yield to God.  This is the moment of truth when we can allow the Holy Spirit to take control of our emotions. The “life-giving quarter-second” is my opportunity to say, "Okay God, I have this impulse right now. I’m really ticked off.  I’m really afraid.  I’m really aroused. God, Should I act on this impulse?”

Typically, when we are emotionally charged, we are predictably irrational.  This could involve sexual arousal, hunger, anger, or fear.  Regardless, when we act on our impulses, we tend to make foolish decisions.  Postponing our immediate response usually allows us to be in a better condition to make smarter decisions.  A short walk, a conversation with a friend, or a 911 prayer asking for God’s help can help each of us apply Paul’s advice to Timothy—keep your head in all situations.


"Turn my heart toward your statutes and not toward selfish gain." Ps. 119:36

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 “75 & better”

Ladies Tea 


“flutter” on by & join us!

Saturday, April 6th

2-4pm in the parlor

RSVP by March 31:

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(transportation available by request)

Start your day off  RIGHT

SUBMITTED BY: Pastor Jamo Children's Pastor



 Colossians 3:13 - Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you


 Matthew 6:14-15  - For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins.


 Ephesians 4:32 - Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.


 1 John 1:9 - If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.


 Daniel 9:9 - The Lord our God is merciful and forgiving, even though we have rebelled against him.

 Mark 11:25 - And when you stand praying, if you hold anything against anyone, forgive them, so that your Father in heaven may forgive you your sins.

 Matthew 26:28 - This is my blood of the covenant, which is poured out for many for the forgiveness of sins.

SUBMITTED BY: Pastor BJ Family  & Worship Pastor


Lead pastor at RFA Church in Raleigh, Chad is a gifted preacher, mission leader, and Kingdom builder. His message on Good Friday will lead you to the cross.


guest speaker:

Worship lead by:

Look out! Metamorphosis will be hosted at Grey Stone this month! We are expecting many churches to come together for an incredible student discipleship weekend. There will be three worship sessions hosted in the Family Life Center.The sessions will include an energetic environment, praise and worship, and gospel-centered messages. Dr. Scott Pace, Professor of Preaching at Southeastern Seminary, is our weekend speaker. Please pray that  each student's heart will be filled with the message, to place their identity in Christ rather than things of this world!


I have recently been encouraged to see one of our Young Adults Life Group growing. Cindy Lawrence leads the “30-something group,” which includes young singles and couples in their late 20’s & 30’s. Since it’s launch last year, the group has extended its membership, receives 2-3 new guests each month or so, started several home-Bible Studies on Marriage with separate mens’ and women’s groups, and has a weekly prayer & announcement e-mail communication. The current “Culture of Christianity” would tell us to attract this age group by having small groups in homes discussing topics; inviting them to a contemporary worship service; and don’t meet early on Sundays. Defying this outlook, the folks in this group gather for early worship, attend a traditional “Sunday School” format using the Explore the Bible series with a great teacher, and meet outside of class-time for fellowship and marriage enrichment. They are truly inspiring and doing “life together!” They are setting a fantastic example for Grey Stone regarding healthy group growth and involvement both in the church family and community.

WRITTEN BY: Pastor Randall Education Pastor

Starting March 13th from 6-6:30pm those who THINK they are dummies when it comes to reading music are invited to join this fun and informative class!


The focus will be to help adults navigate through written music and not be overwhelmed by it. Join us in the choir room (behind the sanctuary)


Hope to see you there!

To the families of...

  • Earl Lewellyn in the loss of his father

  • Tammy Rutledge in the loss of her mother

  • Helen Inscoe in the loss of her sister


Memory of...

  • Amy Humphreys by the Sorrell/Humphreys Class (Legacy)


Dec 02, 18         $38,700.45

Dec 09, 18         Snow

Dec 16, 18         $ 91,056.45

Dec 23, 18        $ 81,240.09

Dec 30, 18        $ 44,690.45

Jan 06, 19        $41,322.37

Jan 13, 19         Snow

Jan 20, 19        $ 46,139.45

Jan 27, 19        $ 43,493.84

Jan 06, 19       619

Jan 13, 19       snow

Jan 20, 19       575

Jan 27, 19       557

Feb 03, 19        $ 36,258.76

Feb 10, 19         $ 27,379.93

Feb 17, 19          $ 19,493.75

Feb 24, 19        $33,259.18 

Feb 03, 19       572

Feb 10 , 19       562

Feb 17, 19         578

Feb 24, 19       569


Legacy                       $ 7,624.68
Lottie Moon             $ 5,106.00
Senior Min.               $ 665.14
 Evangelism Min.     $  70.00

Toronto Mission       $ 236.66

Bible Translation      $ 456.66

Disaster Relief         $ 1,276.00

Children Min.            $ 110.00

Student Min.            $ 200.00

Romania Mission    $ 150.00

Haiti Mission           $ 50.00

Second Mile            $3,860.00


Legacy                       $ 2,562.00

Second Mile             $ 795.00

Music Min.               $ 1,700.00

 Toronto Mission      $ 100.00

 Senior Min.             $ 349.42

Romania Mission    $ 350.00

Children Min.           $ 60.00

Education Min.         $10.00  

 Disaster Relief        $$ 100.00

Student Min.             $300.00  


Legacy                        $ 2,976.50

Second Mile              $ 1,490.00

Romania Mission      $ 1,135.00

 Toronto Mission        $ 305.00

Education Min.           $ 345.00
Disaster Relief            $ 525.00
Children’s Min.            $ 410.00
   Senior Min.                $ 397.42

Student Min.                $ 525.00  

 Africa Mission             $ 133.18


  • John King and Ed Punt by Velma Barbee (Disaster Relief)

  • Bill Dameron and Mr./Mrs. Phillip Griffith (Disaster Relief)

  • Dr. I.F. Lipscomb by Pam and Greg Ladd (Lottie Moon)

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